SELF CARE... FROM THE INSIDE OUT
Evelyn Frank is a Medical Skin Therapist, Makeup Artist and Certified Health Coach, with her own practice, The Skin Therapy Center, located in Ellicott City, Maryland. Her unique approach to skin care looks at how all aspects of life manifest in the body’s largest organ – the skin.
Self-care is such a broad term and means something different to everyone, and often has selfish connotations associated with it. Today, women are still plagued by the expectation that we must be “givers”; giving to family, giving to work, giving to children; giving to the community. Therefore the idea of “getting” (self-care) leaves many women with an intense feeling of guilt. To be a woman, we have this notion that we should not “get”, we must only “give”, so any form of self-care is seen sometimes as selfish.
My mission is to reinvent our view of self-care.
“Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance.” ~ Jennifer Louden
It wasn’t until I started taking better care of myself that I was able to truly be there and help others. This was a lesson I had to learn the hard way. In my early 20’s, I went for a routine dermatology check up, and the doctors discovered skin cancer in a mole on my left shoulder. I left shocked and overwhelmed with fear. I didn’t understand why this was happening to me. I was too young. There was no history of skin cancer in my family. It just wasn’t fair! I had the mole removed and everything was physically resolved, but this experience shook me to my core. It was a huge wake up call for me. Not only did it start me on a journey toward a more holistic personal lifestyle, but it also made me rethink my purpose here and question where my professional life was headed. I had always been interested in makeup and skin. As a teenager, I struggled with skin issues, religiously took the medicines and creams that the doctors prescribed but it wasn’t enough. I now had a vested interest in my own skin and wanted to learn more about how to care for it and my body, and in the process it led me down a different career path altogether! The day I came home from my first class at the esthetician school, I was a changed person.
And here’s what I learned:
Your skin is only as good as the body and soul it surrounds. It is an “inside” job to keep it healthy and vibrant. And self-care is vital to its survival.
From the food we eat, to the thoughts we have, to our spiritual practices and to the movement and activity we create in our lives, our bodies and skin are nourished from the inside out! How we treat and care for ourselves is in direct proportion to the health of our skin. Nourishing our bodies and our spirits through an ongoing practice of self-care is essential to having healthy, glowing skin on the outside. Each of us is a unique individual with our own personal health history, challenges and needs. By navigating these needs and taking care of ourselves from the inside out, we can not only look good but feel good as well.
Looking back, it is not lost on me that the cancer showed up on my skin. The experience made me realize that I was only living my life on the surface, and that I needed to dig deeper to truly be happy and healthy, and ultimately led me to help others do the same. It gave me the insight to listen to my heart and find my purpose, to explore the things that made me happy, and gradually the act of self-care started to heal me, from the inside out! Now I am able to help women (and men!) look beneath the surface of their skin to discover a holistic approach to their overall wellbeing, creating healthy skin and a healthy life.